tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-194687283298919576.post2393497304034973821..comments2022-03-26T19:38:21.233-07:00Comments on Martian Mama:: Life on MarsUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-194687283298919576.post-23795227694480054562009-09-13T20:05:49.372-07:002009-09-13T20:05:49.372-07:00You know? I'm thinking if you're open to ...You know? I'm thinking if you're open to it, it's time your blog helped you. Put it out there and be a taker for awhile. I'm sure I speak for most of your readers in that we're here to listen. Period. You're not a freak; you may *feel* like one, but you're not a freak. I can't imagine how hard this is for you and the monkeys. Based on what I've read over the past couple years, though, I think you and your littles are really going to shine now that you have nothing to hold you back. Just hold on. Love to you, Kelly.Heatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04337743056688713317noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-194687283298919576.post-37966753879160029672009-09-13T20:44:48.855-07:002009-09-13T20:44:48.855-07:00Well, I'm a divorced Mormon Mom (although rema...Well, I'm a divorced Mormon Mom (although remarried now) of 4 kiddos. Is that close?:) I found you on the Pre-eclampsia board and followed you here. I have felt the same way at times and wonder where I fit in. My new hubby and I have added a baby to the mix, so the three older children along with a baby kind of complicates the situation (although I wouldn't change it for the world). Do I hang out with the "older" moms" because we have teenagers, or the "young" moms, because we have babies, or the divorced moms, although I am remarried now, so that doesn't seem to work either. I think you'll find that most people don't find a perfect fit. You know what? That's okay. I have something to offer each group and there is something to be gained from each group. One of my dearest friends is a 73 year-old grandmother. We have nothing in common, but we love each other's company.<br>Hang in there. It sounds like you've had a heck of a year. Soon you'll find your place and if you can't find it, then create it. It is only a matter of time before those around you realize what a wonderful person you are and all the talents and gifts you have to offer. <br>As far as your blog is concerned, even though you and I are not in the exact same stage of life, I enjoy your spirit, your perseverance and your pick-yourself-back-up attitude. You would be missed.Calihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03891797367289361546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-194687283298919576.post-41296613314495168492009-09-13T21:12:22.770-07:002009-09-13T21:12:22.770-07:00I don't think you should stop writing. I don&#...I don't think you should stop writing. I don't think you're a freak, and if you were close we would be friends no matter. You're also not alone (even though it seems that way) My aunt was a divorced mom of 5 (so one less than you) when her youngest was 4 (or maybe 3) and it was very difficult for her as well. (and NOT her choice, either) She is the most conservative Catholic of her siblings (5 in all) and became very involved in the pro-life movement during her divorce. (which caused all kinds of issues between her & her siblings who thought she was being an irresponsible mother to risk arrest - a strong likelihood at that time in that area and it was by the Hand of God that she wasn't, as many others were) ANYWAY, 18 years later, she's doing okay. She never remarried, and has never even dated. Her children are all grown and doing well. She recently sold the house she had when they were all growing up and lives in a nice apartment that she shares with her oldest. 2 of her kids have kids of their own, and she enjoys being a Grandma. Her faith is still strong. My point is -- there ARE others out there like you and by writing your blog you will reach them and let them know they aren't alone. I know she felt ALONE for so long. I'm sorry you have to go through this, and I do pray that you find at least one, good friend that is close by.Melaniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06599334919240848068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-194687283298919576.post-78029724622910567412009-09-14T07:18:03.311-07:002009-09-14T07:18:03.311-07:00Thanks guys for the kind comments - I feel better ...Thanks guys for the kind comments - I feel better today and I appreciate you helping me get back to a "positive" mind set. Melanie, I'd love to talk to your aunt - is she still sane? That's what I want to know... LOL!Kellyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17314251373368639823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-194687283298919576.post-1834930421639120522009-09-14T08:56:12.536-07:002009-09-14T08:56:12.536-07:00The hardest part of moving for me was leaving the ...The hardest part of moving for me was leaving the friends I'd made, knowing that it took me almost 10 years! to make them all and that I was going to have to start over. And being a homeschool SAHM meant I was by myself with the kids most of the time. It's gonna take me another 10 years! to get to the same point I was before I moved, but I have to take it a step at a time. <br><br>It's taken two years for me to get to a good place socially, and just recently I've noticed it getting ready to take off with a whole new batch of homeschoolers joining the little group I've been with. It takes time. No one can become part of a group after only one meeting. You have to get to know them and they have to get to know you. And they won't get beyond "divorced with 6 kids" if you don't let them. And, once again, it takes time.<br><br>Focus on getting yourself well mentally, focus on your kids - get THEM involved in things - and you'll find that you get involved, too. <br><br>And offer it up in solidarity with Christ's suffering. He knows how you feel and wants to use this to bring you closer to Him. Let Him fill the void. I find that when I feel I'm searching for something, I've usually lost sight of Christ and just need to relocate Him.<br><br>And, as always, our prayers are with you. BTW, thanks for the b-day present for Jonathan. You shouldn't have - and I mean it.Kristinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03861268909381619636noreply@blogger.com